Dealing with Conflict Together
Partners tend to get into patterns of fighting. Whereas you were once a couple teamed up together against the world, now you may feel like you’re always at odds with one another. Therapy can help you get back to a place where you are working together instead of fighting against each other.
When couples come to therapy, each often feels like they are right, and their partner is wrong. That’s perfectly normal. You’re locked in that pattern. Your fights have turned into black-and-white arguments and you are each no longer able to see the grey. It seems like the only way to solve things is for one of you to give in. Neither wants to do that, so you’re stuck.
Couples counseling can help you start to remember that your partner is not the problem. You are not the problem. The problem is the problem. As you work with the tools of therapy, you can return to a place where you work together as a team to solve the problem. Even when the conflict is not yet resolved, this shift in approach can help improve how you both feel about the relationship.