Being creative doesn’t mean you are required to suffer. As a creative person, you are flexible enough to maneuver well in many situations, but you can also feel isolated and lonely. Other people may expect you to be fanciful, but you have a serious side that sees problems before you focus on solving them.
The Trouble with Being Creative
It may be difficult for others to understand you as a creative person because you are different people during different stages of your work. Sometimes, you’re so in the flow that the rest of your life seems to fall away as you concentrate your time and energy on your newest creation. This can lead to relationship difficulties. If you try to change to please others, you’re shortchanging yourself. If you refuse, you may lose a relationship with someone who needs a more involved partner.
The world can be cruel to those who are different, especially if they are too different.
Sometimes, you may feel as if your ideas are ahead of your time and that if you could only push the clock ahead twenty or so years, you would be able to find people who understood your point of view. You question how you managed to arrive there ahead of the pack. Maybe you question whether you are ahead of the pack or deluding yourself about what you perceive so clearly. Perhaps you criticize yourself or your work.
If you see too far or diverge too far from the well-traveled paths, the world might reject you and your work. Being in good company and remembering other people the world vilified before their genius was recognized doesn’t soothe you because it doesn’t close the gap between the possibilities you see and the world most of humanity sees as reality.
The uncomplicated bliss you experience when you’re working on a project that is going well calls to you. It is easy to enjoy work more than other areas of your life. But when its time to take a break, or a project is completed, loneliness sets in if you’ve let your relationships fall away or never created them in the first place.
Appreciating Your Accomplishments and Talents When You’re a Creative Person
Recognizing the magnitude of your accomplishments and strengths can often be difficult if you’re a creative person. You might not even derive much enjoyment from them. Whether you are an artist or a researcher, you are aware of the effort generations put in to build the platform you’re working on, which can make your life’s work seem small in comparison to what countless others created before you built upon their work. You’re focused on what you’re going to do next, not what you’ve already accomplished. This can also make you underestimate your own contributions. If you don’t see your own value, you can feel as if you’re not achieving as much as you want to achieve and become even more self-critical.
Seeing the world you’re creating so clearly can create a disconnect between you and those who don’t yet see the creation. Life can feel lonely, and relationships can feel difficult. How do you be as magnificent as you can be without being so different from others that you end up feeling isolated and alone? Is there a way to allow yourself to be so different without suffering?
The Most Difficult Problems to Solve Can Be the Closest to Home
When we artistically or scientifically create new worlds, we’re focused on solutions to problems. Creatives know that solutions never come from studying the problem—they come from deciding what would be better and finding ways to shift the world towards the solution. When something up close and personal isn’t the way we’d like it to be, almost everyone focuses on the problem. The problem is just too vivid to see solutions, especially when we’re mired in a personal situation that matters to us. Thus, finding that perspective on our own, when it is our life that has the problem, can be difficult.
How Therapy Can Be Part of the Solution
When the problem is slamming us in multiple ways every day, it can seem large and insurmountable. A therapist is an outsider looking in who can see a bigger picture and then help you put the issues in perspective, so they feel more manageable.
At Affinity, we help you use your strengths and a positive, life-affirming focus to address problems. Because we know that with the right perspective, you can find solutions. Let’s get creative together. Read more about how depression treatment can help you with your creativity or contact us today.