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Skills To Teach Your Teen As They Inch Closer To Adulthood

Teenagers are busy. Besides schoolwork, they may have extracurricular activities and maybe stye play a sort or two. On top of that, there are part-time jobs, a social life, and dating. All this is happening as they niche ever closer to adulthood. So, when are they developing the skills that will benefit them in everyday ways very soon?

This is where parents can fill the gap. Amidst all the chaos of teen life, time and efforts must be allocated to adulting. The skills your child acquires now can serve them for decades. Therefore, this is the epitome of time well spent.

Start With the Basics

Some examples include:

  • Keep it Clean: This goes for personal hygiene, of course. But also, there are your child’s living space, cars, etc. Learning how to do laundry fits right into this category.
  • Nourish Yourself: After a childhood of assuming food is simply found in the fridge, your teen must develop fundamental skills like smart shopping, making healthy choices, cooking and following a recipe, and more.
  • Repairs: No one should expect every teen to be handy or a tech wizard. But it can save a lot of time and money if they can handle minor repairs around the house along with their devices and their car.
  • Paperwork and Red Tape: Can they use their phone and computers safely without getting phished or scammed? How about applying for a job, apartment hunting, maintaining a credit card, and starting a bank account?

All of the above will offer relief and solace over and over as they ease into adulthood. However, some skills are less tangible but equally as important.

photo of a teenage girl standing on an empty road smiling at camera2 More Skills To Teach Your Teen As They Inch Closer To Adulthood

1. Relationships, Interactions, and Communication

As a teen embraces more and more independence, they will have more and more people in their lives. From partners to friends to roommates to bosses and beyond. They’ll need to learn how to set boundaries, have adult conversations, and manage a schedule. In addition, there will be this inevitable time when disagreements strike.

2. Dealing With Conflict

Conflict resolution is as valuable a skill as anything mentioned in this post. A key to thriving as an adult is emotional regulation. When difficulties arise, young adults can’t just storm off to their room and slam the door. They have to name their emotions, own up to their accountability, and learn ways to resolve challenges. As with #1 above, tools like this can be discovered via therapy.

What This Process Means For You

It’s never easy to watch your child struggle. You have to let go — at least a little — and that can seem impossible. But your responsibility as a parent is to walk that fine line of offering support while granting your teen autonomy. Hovering over their lives too long is not healthy for either of you but the same goes for cutting the cord too quickly. Here are a few suggestions:

  • If your teen is moving out, keep room for them to return for comforting
  • Set up a schedule for talking on the phone and meeting in person
  • Allow both of you to set boundaries as to how much input is too much
  • Be wary of offering unsolicited advice (except in emergencies)
  • Give them space to learn tough lessons

At the end of the day, both parent and child are navigating new territory. Neither of you has done this before so don’t expect to just come up with all the right answers. Consulting with a therapist is a proven path toward smoothing this tricky process. So, if you need help preparing your teen, we’re here to help you do so.

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