Chelse Bolin, MSW, LICSWchelse@affinitypsych.com

Chelse Bolin, MSW, LICSW

chelse@affinitypsych.com

Hello & welcome! My name is Chelse and I am a Licensed Independent Clinical Social Worker in Minnesota.

I’m glad you are here, and I want to give you a high five! Making the choice to start therapy can feel scary and vulnerable. You may feel like you don’t know where to start. I am here to guide you through this experience.

Everyone can make positive changes in their lives, and therapy is one of the most useful experiences we have at our disposal to make such changes. Therapy is an opportunity to be seen, heard, and understood. It is a place where you will receive significant support, gather new tools, and develop new skills to support you in life.




How I Work

These are the 3 most important things I want you to know before we start to work together-
1. I believe you are the expert on yourself and your life (even if you don’t believe this is true yet).
2. I value our relationship.
3. To feel comfortable talking about yourself in therapy, you need to feel safe. This is my number one goal – to create a safe space for you and the work we do together. After we achieve that, the rest will follow, and you will set the pace.


How We Will Work

You can expect me to bring compassion, respect, and direct communication to our work. You can trust that I know there is equal room in therapy for processing pain and fear as there is for celebration. I expect you to bring your honesty. I genuinely care about your well-being and I’m here to walk through this chapter of your life with you so that you feel supported and hopeful for the future.

I will recommend books for you to read, positive social media to consider for inspiration (if you wish), and reflection activities and/or journaling to do in between sessions.


What Sets Me Apart As a Therapist?

As an out and open Queer woman, I bring the knowledge and empathy of a queer experience to the therapeutic relationship. I find it a privilege to work with people who are on their journey of self exploration and healing. Whether its related to sexuality and gender, interpersonal relationships or a major life transition, my intention is to help you find balance, bravery, compassion and motivation to work towards your goals.

My clinical approaches are client-centered and relational. By exploring relationships from the past and in the present you can answer questions about yourself and others that you are unsure of. You can reflect and improve self awareness. I want to provide you the space to be open with yourself and attend to what comes up through this process.

I look forward to working with you.



Issues I Treat:

  • Depression
  • Anxiety
  • Sexuality and gender exploration
  • Mood disorders
  • Trauma (excluding sexual abuse)
  • Life transitions
  • Codependency
  • Substance use
  • Grief and loss
  • LGBT+ experiences
  • Impacts of Diet Culture, Fat phobia and Negative Body Image
  • Relationship transitions
  • Self esteem
  • Self compassion

Populations I Serve:

  • Teens age 14 and up
  • Young adults
  • Adults
  • LGBT+ folks
  • Poly/Open/Non monogamous folks

Professional background:



Education

  • Bachelor’s degree in Social Work from St Cloud State University
  • Masters degree in Clinical Social Work from St. Catherine’s University

Previous Employment

  • Abbott Northwestern Hospital
  • Unity Hospital

Licensure

  • Minnesota: LICSW #23169

Sierra Barger, MA, LMFT sierra@affinitypsych.com

Sierra Barger, MA, LMFT

sierra@affinitypsych.com

Hello there! I’m Sierra and I’m a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist. I work with teens, adults, parents/guardians, and families who are committed to bringing greater fulfillment and meaning to their lives. I am so glad you are here and working to find the right therapist for yourself or a loved one! Regardless of your specific struggle, I know you’re wondering what you can do to change the way you’re feeling and how you can maintain your well-being throughout life’s ups and downs. You want to believe – and feel! – as though you have control of your life. I can help you explore strategies that will help you manage the difficult experiences impacting your life, so that you can feel confident in the decisions you make day-in and day-out.




How I Work

Relationships, education, and health are the factors I most strongly value and focus on when we’re talking about helping you improve your emotional well-being. I am always dedicated to partnering with you to identify the things that motivate you and help you be your best self. When your mental health is compromised you can experience difficulties with managing responsibilities and taking care of yourself.

Depending on your specific strengths and challenges, we will pull from a wide range of strategies and interventions to figure out how best to get you back on track! I’m not a therapist that thinks a particular approach is best for everyone. Instead, I’m committing to exploring and learning with you what works, why it works, and how you can do more of what works. When all is said and done…YOU call the shots! I thoroughly love teaching and providing information that can improve your overall well-being, but I know the importance of listening to and learning from your unique experiences.


What Sets Me Apart As a Therapist?

Listen, I know I don’t have all the answers to all life’s problems, and I don’t pretend to. But I will never stop trying to find them! I’ll be open-minded, validating, humorous, and direct in our work together, as I encourage you to keep looking for those answers as well. Growing up and identifying as a multiracial woman, I’ve had the privilege of learning at an early age how to acknowledge, accept, and celebrate differences. Diverse experiences are something I particularly love holding space for in my work with clients.



Issues I Treat:

  • Anxiety
  • Depression
  • Relationship issues
  • Foster Care
  • Adoption
  • Domestic violence or abuse
  • Eating Disorders
  • Life transitions
  • Parenting
  • Pregnancy, prenatal, postpartum
  • Racial identity
  • School issues
  • Self esteem
  • Sexual abuse
  • Trauma

Populations I Serve:

  • Children (6+)
  • Adolescents
  • Adults
  • Parents
  • Families
  • Marginalized Populations

Professional background:



Education

  • Masters in Marriage and Family Therapy- University of St. Thomas
  • Bachelors in Clinical Psychology- Augsburg University 

Trainings

  • Circle of Security Parenting (COS)
  • Trauma-Focused Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (TFCBT)
  • Diagnostic Classification of Mental Health and Developmental Disorders of Infancy and Early Childhood (DC:0-5)

Previous Employment

  • St. David’s Center for Child and Family Development
  • People Incorporated
  • Nystrom & Associates Ltd.

Licensure

  • Minnesota, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, 3437

Denise Wing, MA, LMFTdenise@affinitypsych.com

Denise Wing, MA, LMFT

denise@affinitypsych.com

Hello! My name is Denise. Thank you for the opportunity to introduce myself. I am a licensed marriage and family therapist with an extensive practice history in both acute short-term settings and as a long-term out-patient therapist. I earned my graduate degree in psychotherapy and counseling at the Alfred Adler Graduate School in MN. It has been my privilege and passion to utilize my years of experience to now focus on work with adults of all ages. Our work together would likely center on guiding and deepening understanding about root problems affecting you, as well as identifying your strengths and building appreciation of yourself while making sense of your story. We will collaborate to support and further develop your hopes for the future.




How I Work

I work from a belief that to understand oneself is to love oneself. Much emotional pain and suffering can be centered and sustained by factors developed at times in our lives when we had little say or help in making meaning of what is happening around us. This can lead not only to mental health symptoms but also deep feelings of inadequacy, guilt, doubt, and confusion about ourselves, our interactions with others and life in general. My job is to build trust and understanding in the therapeutic relationship so that it can be uniquely used for your healing and empowerment. Along the way, we will consider parts of your story that have gone unprivileged when problems are too strong. These are your real, but perhaps underdeveloped plots, subplots, and counter plots of your life story. Once considered and thickened, thy can create a sense of being transported (not unlike a moving novel or movie.) I believe good therapy is both artful and scientific in its approach and theory.


What Sets Me Apart As a Therapist?

I continually work hard to understand the needs of those that choose to consult with me and recognize the great honor of being allowed to do this work. I know that some people need help feeling contained, some need a reflective surface in which to see parts of themselves so they can feel whole. Others need a relationship in order to process and make sense of their lives while experiencing the unconditional regard they deserve. While many clients have noted a sense of fulfillment around getting to the root of what they consider problems in their lives, I will always honor your timing, emotional safety, and control in the therapy process.



Issues I Treat:

  • Depression
  • Self-esteem/self-worth issues
  • Trauma and abuse issues
  • Developmental trauma including exposure to violence/disaster, neglect, bullying and other emotional abuses, assault and chronic distress in childhood
  • PTSD
  • Family of origin issues and dynamics
  • Anxiety, worry, panic episodes and chronic stress
  • Parenting challenges
  • Anger/aggression
  • Chronic interpersonal conflict
  • Grief
  • Shame or excessive guilt

Populations I Serve:

  • Adults of all ages
  • Creatives
  • People interested in understanding themselves on a deeper level
  • Parents

Professional background:



Education

  • The Minneapolis College of Art and Design, Minneapolis, MN

  • Alfred Adler Graduate School, Richfield, MN


Trainings

  • Two year Psychoanalytic Training Course, Minneapolis Psychoanalytic Society and Institute (“MPSI”)

  • Eight years of specialized analytic supervision with MPSI Analysts

  • Narrative Therapy Certification Training

  • Several years of Advanced Narrative Therapy study/learning group


Previous Employment

  • PrairieCare Medical Group – Edina Partial Hospitalization Program, Woodbury Outpatient Clinic

  • Family Innovation, Anoka, Eden Prairie

  • Perspectives Supportive Housing Program, St. Louis Park


Licensure

  • MN Marriage and Family Therapist, License #1812

Michael Jacob, MS michael@affinitypsych.com

Michael Jacob, MS

michael@affinitypsych.com

Hello! My name is Michael (he/him). Thank you for stopping by and congrats on taking the first step to improve yourself! I have a Master of Science in Mental Health Counseling degree from the University of Wisconsin – Stout, with an emphasis in eating and personality disorders. I am currently working on becoming a Licensed Professional Clinical Counselor in Minnesota.

My role as a therapist is to help you become the most authentic version of yourself and I am honored to be part of that journey with you. I work with individuals and couples who are experiencing a wide range of difficulties in life. Mental health is never as simple as one problem or one solution, so I have a tool kit full of clinical knowledge, techniques, understanding, empathy, and practicality to help you better yourself.


Michael is able to accept all of our contracted insurance plans except the following. Feel free to ask about out-of-network or sliding scale availability.
  • Medicare
  • Multiplan
  • Tricare



How I Work

I have two jobs as a therapist: My first job is to learn about you; When things aren’t going well, it can be hard to be heard or feel seen by others, so my job is to offer you a space to have those feelings validated. My second job is to educate and guide you on this new path towards being a better you! As a therapist, I view you as the pilot and myself as the navigator. You know the destination but maybe not how to get there, so I can offer you some guidance and direction. Along the way, we may make some side trips or find a new path to take, but in the end we’ll work together to reach the goals you’ve set for yourself. 


What Sets Me Apart As a Therapist?

As a gay man, I bring my own experiences and knowledge of what it is like to live in a world that is not always the most supportive of being your true self. I am aware of and sensitive to the struggles that LGBTQIA+ individuals have, but I also know that my experiences are unique and not the same as yours. I am always learning and being educated on different issues to provide better services for clients and to be a better member of the community.

I also enjoy bringing some fun and laughter to sessions. It is as important to celebrate the positives and successes in life as it is to explore the struggles. I like to make references to TV shows, especially my favorites like The Golden Girls, and other pop culture staples that bring me joy (and hopefully, you too)! 

Clients have shared that they feel comfortable with me, that they can trust me, that they feel heard and respected, and that I have helped them make sense of the experiences they have had. Clients also have shared that they love my Olaf tattoo!



Issues I Treat:

  • Anxiety
  • Depression
  • Sexual Orientation 
  • Gender Identity
  • Sex/Intimacy issues
  • Grief
  • ADHD
  • Body image
  • Self-esteem
  • Anger issues
  • Eating Disorders
  • Life changes/adjustments
  • Relationship/Interpersonal challenges
  • Trauma
  • LGBTQIA+ issues

Populations I Serve:

  • Adolescents (13+)
  • Young adults
  • Adults
  • Couples (monogamous, non-monogamous, poly)
  • LGBTQIA+
  • Students

Professional background:



Education

  • Masters of Science in Clinical Mental Health Counseling, University of Wisconsin – Stout

  • Bachelors of Psychology, University of Wisconsin – River Falls

Trainings

  • Diagnosing and Treating Eating Disorders
  • Treating Personality Disorders
  • Cognitive Processing Therapy for Trauma

Abby Wulfing, MA, LMFT abby.wulfing@affinitypsych.com

Abby Wulfing, MA, LMFT

abby.wulfing@affinitypsych.com

Welcome! My name is Abby Wulfing, and I am a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT) in the state of Minnesota. In the past, I have worked in crisis settings and a day treatment program, but most of my professional career has been spent in an outpatient clinic, which has been a great fit for me. I love that this setting allows me to focus on building a trusting and connected relationship with my clients, where we can collaboratively venture into meaningful territory that will facilitate healing.

I am passionate about working with older adolescents, young adults, couples, and family dyads. Many of the people I work with have a history of trauma, are in a life transition, have difficulty in relationships, struggle with eating-related issues, and have experienced loss, anxiety, and depression. I utilize an integration of approaches including relational and attachment-based modalities, Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT), Emotionally-Focused Couples Therapy (EFCT), and Internal Family Systems (IFS).




How I Work

I am a human first, therapist second. I strive to help my clients feel safe, connected, and understood. Together, you and I will identify your hopes and goals for therapy and work towards what progress looks like for you. I tailor my approach to each person, and you will notice that I often check in with you about what’s working and what isn’t.

Clients often tell me that they are overwhelmed by undesirable thoughts and unsure of themselves. They are fearful of being judged and frustrated because they know what they want to do, but just can’t seem to do it. They wonder what is wrong with them and may believe they are “lazy.” I challenge these interpretations because I believe that there are always understandable reasons for what people do. Challenging circumstances and traumatic experiences can activate our minds and bodies to deploy protection to keep us safe. Over time, that prolonged protection can lead to distress including avoidance, feeling disconnected, repeating unhealthy patterns, and buying into unhelpful and discouraging thoughts and beliefs about ourselves.

Our environment, including micro- and macro-level systems, greatly impacts mental health and needs to be recognized and considered in the therapeutic process. I believe people often know or want to discover the resources they already hold within, and therapy can help you identify, uncover, and use those resources to help accomplish your goals. I will meet you where you are at in order to offer you guidance in meeting your goals. This can help you do things like connect to your values, become more skilled at managing your emotions, be more able to take meaningful action, engage in healthy relationships, feel more in control of your thoughts, and decrease your suffering.


What Sets Me Apart As a Therapist?

I truly enjoy hearing about people’s stories and consider it a privilege to be a therapist. My clients have shared with me that I am down-to-earth, thoughtful, honest, non-judgemental, and present. I will join with you using humor, your interests, and creativity, and I will be there with you through life’s difficulties and joys. I am proud that you made this courageous step and look forward to meeting with you!



Issues I Treat:

  • Trauma
  • Anxiety
  • Depression
  • Eating Disorders
  • Body Image Concerns
  • Low Self-Esteem
  • Parent-Child Struggles
  • Effects of Mental or Physical Abuse
  • Sexuality and Gender Issues
  • Grief

Populations I Serve:

  • Teens 15 and up
  • Adults
  • Couples
  • Families
  • Mixed-Race and Multiethnicity Relationships
  • LGBTQI+
  • Those in poly/open/non-monogamous relationships

Professional background:



Education

  • BA in Psychology – University of Minnesota, Twin Cities

  • Master’s in Counseling Psychology – University of St. Thomas, Minneapolis, MN

Previous Employment

  • The Lorenz Clinic

  • The Bridge for Youth

Licensure

  • Minnesota: LMFT #3475

Ashley Lange, MA, LPCC ashley@affinitypsych.com

Ashley Lange, MA, LPCC

ashley@affinitypsych.com

I’m so grateful that you’ve taken the time to look into therapy and find the right person for you, your family, or your loved one. I’m Ashley, a licenced professional clinical counselor (LPCC) with experience doing individual and family work with adolescents, teens, and adults. Whether in schools, hospitals, clinics, or at home, I have been honored to be present during crises, low points, struggles, and intense challenges. I have also been privileged enough to see people overcome, grow, change, persevere, and live their truest and most authentic lives.

Most importantly, what my experience has taught me is that mental health is never as simple as a diagnosis, a list of symptoms, what pill to take next, or what new therapy fad to use. It’s understanding the big picture, whether that involves family history, social and environmental factors, or injustice and oppression as a result of race, body size, gender, sexuality, or any other area of human bias. Mental health is often the result of trying to live in a world that makes living our best lives difficult, and I do my best to help all of my clients navigate their personal experiences with empathy and humility.

I bring practical knowledge, comprehensive clinical understanding, warmth, and a sense of humor to my work. I am so excited to get to know more about you, and help you accomplish your mental health goals.




How I Work

I attempt to bring the best of many worlds into my sessions. I value learning, education, research, knowledge, and cutting edge clinical information. I also believe strongly that every individual is their own best expert, and my primary job is to help you to access the tools within yourself to lead the life you want to live. I utilize a variety of therapeutic strategies such as CBT, DBT, MAP, mindfulness, holistic perspectives, systems therapy, and trauma informed clinical strategies.

In addition to that, however, I believe the goal of all mental health services should be to help someone live their most satisfying, fulfilling life. That can mean everything from improving symptoms, to finding and completing a lifelong dream, to building a healthy and satisfying relationship. Allow me to accompany you on this journey, and help you find what you seek.


What Sets Me Apart As a Therapist?

I’ve frequently been described as a specialist in “nerdy” topics, so I am always excited to talk about the latest video games, board games, or other niche hobbies with my clients. I also love to make use of fun and excitement in my therapy sessions. When I work with adolescents I will use games and activities to improve the process. But I’m not afraid to bust out games with clients of all ages! Life can and should be fun, and therapy is no different.

People describe me as a very insightful, intuitive, and thoughtful person. I bring deep empathy, compassion, a love to learn about others, and an open heart and mind to my work. I also value humor, and my sessions are often filled with laughter. That’s not to say we won’t also experience the hard things, and travel to dark places, together. Whatever we’re discussing in session, I strive to make my clients feel safe, understood, valued, and respected.



Schedule an Appointment!

Issues I Treat:

  • Trauma (particularly with adolescents)
  • ADHD
  • Body image concerns
  • Low self-esteem
  • Depression
  • Anxiety
  • Chronic/Persistent mental illness

Populations I Serve:

  • Children and Adolescents
  • Families and couples
  • Adults of any age
  • LGBTQI+ folks
  • Parents and adolescents struggling to connect
  • Families trying to repair their relationships with one another
  • Survivors of physical and sexual abuse

Professional background:



Education

  • Master of Arts in Counseling Psychology – University of St. Thomas, St. Paul, MN
  • BA in Strategic Communications – Arizona State University, Phoenix, AZ

Previous Employment

  • Sioux Trails Mental Health Center
  • Fernbrook Family Center
  • People Incorporated
  • Sexual Violence Center

Licensure:

  • Minnesota: LPCC #cc2903

Charlotte Szabo, DNP, PMHFNP-BC, APRN charlotte@affinitypsych.com

Charlotte Szabo, DNP, PMHFNP-BC, APRN

charlotte@affinitypsych.com

Hello! I’m Charlotte, a board-certified psychiatric mental health nurse practitioner. When medication is a part of your overall plan to manage and improve your mental health, I’m your person.

Throughout my life I have lived in different countries, and these unique people-experiences have allowed me to incorporate a more comprehensive, accepting, empathetic, and holistic approach to my practice. I speak 4 languages (Hungarian, Italian, Spanish, and English) fluently and enjoy so much connecting on a linguistic level – other than English – when possible.

I enjoy working with a wide variety of patients, from those who have trouble dealing with stress to the most serious and challenging combinations of psychiatric disorders. My extensive work experience ranges from the hospital setting to the Psychiatry Lead at the University of Minnesota’s Community Health Care Center (CUHCC), to varying outpatient clinical practices with a wide scope of patients from different age, ethnic, sexual, and socio-economic backgrounds. As a registered health care practitioner in the Minnesota Medical Cannabis Registry, I also register patients who might benefit from medical marijuana after having had unsuccessful trials with traditional psychotropic medications.




How I Work

“The glue that holds all relationships together….is trust, and trust is based on integrity.” This maxim by Brian Tracy is at my core, and because of that I work best with patients who genuinely want to get better. I invest a lot of effort, thought, and knowledge into each one of my patients and get the best results when there is an investment from you as well. A comment that I get often from my patients is that they feel that I sincerely care about them. And they’re right – because I treat each person, who comes to me looking for help in feeling better about their lives, as if they were one of my family members. (Just fyi, I’m from a Hungarian family and I’m the oldest of 9 – so being treated like family is kind of BIG!). A comment I get from my colleagues is that I will bend over backwards for my patients and go out of my way for them. Yes! I do! Because if you’re willing to make the courageous step to reach out for mental health help, then I will be there on the other end reaching for you to help break the cycle of mental illness.


What Sets Me Apart As a Psychiatric Provider?

How many times have you felt a divide between them (the medical professionals) and you (the patient)? I don’t have a problem with the cold temps in Minnesota, but the frigid gap I do have a problem with. When we work together you will find yourself in an environment in which things are warm, authentic, and open. If you’re looking for a formal, superficial “white coat doctor” approach to manage your medications – that’s not me. I believe that knowledge, expertise, and excellence in how one treats their patients is not based in a sense of superiority. I will answer the most “I feel embarrassed to ask this” questions to the most intricate questions related to your medication plan. I don’t stop at figuring out the best medication regimen for you – I dig DEEP to figure out what solution(s) might be best for you. My passion lies in system level changes to better my patients’ lives, therefore I will always offer you my $0.02. And, I will always add, it is up to you which way you choose to proceed. Because ultimately it is your life, your body, your decision.



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Issues I Treat:

  • ADHD
  • Alcohol Use
  • Anger Management
  • Anxiety
  • Asperger’s Syndrome
  • Autism
  • Behavioral Issues
  • Bipolar Disorder
  • Borderline Personality Disorder
  • Chronic Impulsivity
  • Codependency
  • Coping Skills
  • Depression
  • Developmental Disorders
  • Domestic Violence
  • Drug Abuse
  • Eating Disorders
  • Emotional Disturbance
  • Family Conflict
  • Gambling
  • Grief
  • Infidelity
  • Intellectual Disability
  • Learning Disabilities
  • Life Transitions
  • Obesity
  • Obsessive-Compulsive (OCD)
  • Oppositional Defiance
  • Parenting
  • Peer Relationships
  • Pregnancy, Prenatal, Postpartum
  • Relationship Issues
  • School Issues
  • Self Esteem
  • Self-Harming
  • Sleep or Insomnia
  • Stress
  • Suicidal Ideation
  • Trauma and PTSD
  • Weight Loss
  • Women’s Issues

Populations I Serve:

  • Adults
  • Adolescents / Teenagers
  • Children (5+)
  • LGBTQIA+
  • Helping Professionals
  • Marginalized Populations

Professional background:



Education

  • University of Minnesota, Twin Cities, MN
    Doctorate of Nursing Practice, graduated with honors

  • University of California, San Francisco, CA
    Psychiatric Mental Health Family Nurse Practitioner
    Master of Science in Nursing, graduated with honors

  • Samuel Merritt University, Oakland, CA
    RN and Bachelor of Science in Nursing, magna cum laude
  • Holy Names University, Oakland, CA
    Summa cum laude

Licensure

  •  Minnesota / CNP 1890

Certification

  • ANCC – Board Certification / 2012011414

Ami-Lyn Sussman, MSW, LGSW ami-lyn@affinitypsych.com

Ami-Lyn Sussman, MSW, LGSW

ami-lyn@affinitypsych.com

Hi there! I am so glad you made it here. This is the first step on the journey toward healing. That’s a big deal. Exploring options and making decisions that align with your true self can be a wonderful experience. You have a lot to be proud of! Not everyone is brave enough to take this first step. In light of making this decision, let me tell you a little bit about myself. My name is Ami-Lyn. I am a social worker in New York and Minnesota and am currently working on becoming licensed in Minnesota. My Master’s degree is from Silberman School of Social Work at Hunter College in NYC, and my Bachelor’s degree is from Queens College. My journey to becoming a licensed therapist was in fact my own journey toward healing.

Learning about the brain, the mind-body connection, social systems, and therapeutic tools all helped me personally, and that allows me to help others in their own process. Now I work with individuals, families, and couples across the lifespan, working with them to integrate their full selves in the healing process.


Ami-Lyn is able to accept all of our contracted insurance plans except the following. Feel free to ask about out-of-network or sliding scale availability.
  • Medicare
  • Multiplan
  • Tricare



How I Work

My job is to help you create a filing cabinet for yourself. A safe place you can contain your memories, ideas, and reflections. We will sort and revisit them together, at your own pace, in good time, and without judgement. I use a lot of mindfulness practices and exercises that we will do together in session so that you can access them on your own outside of therapy. These exercises will help build the muscles needed for healing. There may be some trial and error in the process, but that’s part of the work. Each step you take is one step closer to becoming the person you want to be and achieving the goals you want to achieve.

I believe in creating a place to explore who we truly are, how we see ourselves, what was expected of us, what we want, and all the other questions that are important to ask and answer about ourselves. That’s what therapy is all about. It’s not an overnight process, but it’s worth the time and effort you put into it.


What Sets Me Apart As a Therapist?

When I work with clients, I’m always trying to see the big picture while also trying to understand the way the pieces fit together and how each piece affects all the others in your life. I’m thinking about your mind, your physical self, your emotional world, as well as all the relationships, groups and systems you’re a part of and that wrap around you.

No one is an island. When we locate you in that web, it’s a bit like locating you on a map in relation to other places. From there we can more fully understand where you are, where you’re trying to go, and what will need to happen in order for you to reach your destination.



Schedule an Appointment!

Issues I Treat:

  • Stress
  • Anxiety
  • Depression
  • Self-Esteem
  • Adoption Issues
  • Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD)
  • ADHD
  • Anger Management
  • Anxiety
  • Behavioral Issues
  • Coping Skills
  • Eating Disorders
  • Family Conflict
  • Oppositional Defiance
  • Parenting Challenges
  • Peer Relationships
  • Relationship Issues
  • Body Image Challenges

Populations I Serve:

  • Children (5+) and Adolescents
  • Adults
  • Families
  • Adoptees
  • Families Created Through Adoption
  • Trauma Survivors
  • Creative Folks
  • LGBTQ+
  • People Questioning/Changing Careers

Professional background:



Education

  • Master’s in Social Work – Silberman School of Social Work at Hunter College-CUNY, NYC
  • BA in Psychology – Queens College, NY

Previous Employment

  • TheraCare
  • Maspeth High School, Queens
  • P.R.O.V.E (Project for Return and Opportunity in Veterans Education)

Licensure

  • MN LGSW 29643 (working towards independent licensure)

Kelly Sternhagen, MSW, LICSW kelly@affinitypsych.com

Kelly Sternhagen, MSW, LICSW

kelly@affinitypsych.com

Hello and welcome! I appreciate you taking the time to get to know a little bit about me and consider whether we might work well together. I’m Kelly (she, her, hers) and I am a Licensed Independent Clinical Social Worker. I received my BSW undergraduate degree from Winona State University and my MSW from the University of Minnesota, Twin Cities.

My “therapist gift” is being able to see the whole system that surrounds my client, and all the dynamics within that system that are impacting my client’s ability to thrive. I developed this ability through many years of working with children, adolescents, and their families, and now I bring that expertise to my work with adults as well.




How I Work

We are continuously being shaped by the important people in our lives and situations that have happened to us, all of which have made us into who we are today. These experiences, both positive and negative, can either drive us to reach our full potential and goals or can get in our way. That’s what can cause us to feel stuck and hopeless, to re-live painful experiences over and over again, or to recreate unhealthy relationship patterns.

I will work with you to explore and understand these past experiences so we can get to the root of what’s keeping you from reaching your full potential. When you feel empowered to reshape your future, nothing can hold you back!


What Sets Me Apart As a Therapist?

I have a calm, steady, unflappable energy that helps to create a safe environment for us to do the sometimes challenging, always gratifying work of therapy. I will help to guide you through the process. At times, you will take the lead, and at times I will help you to figure out how to take the lead, in therapy and in your own life. This holds true for my work with children as well. I use experiential play therapy to help children work through their experiences and feelings so that they can find and create the healing they need.



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Issues I Treat:

  • Depression
  • Anxiety and stress
  • Grief and loss
  • Life transitions
  • Self-esteem, self-confidence, and assertiveness
  • Shame
  • ADHD
  • Body image and body acceptance
  • Eating disorders
  • Behavioral issues
  • Divorce
  • Trauma

Populations I Serve:

  • Adults
  • Young Adults
  • Children (5 and older) and adolescents
  • Stressed out students
  • Families in conflict
  • Kids with social or emotional struggles
  • Parents with parenting challenges or differences

Professional background:



Education

  • Winona State University – Bachelor of Social Work

  • University of Minnesota-Twin Cities- Master of Social Work

Trainings

  • Yoga Calm Integrated Approach to Wellness 1-3 courses

  • EMDR Part I, EMDR Humanitarian Assistance Programs

  • Experiential Play Therapy

  • Sand Tray Play Therapy

  • Filial Play Therapy

  • Intro to DC:0-3R, MN of Human Services

  • Minnesota Psychoanalytic Society Psychoanalytic Psychotherapy Training Program

Previous Employment

  • Prairie Care-PHP program

  • Headway Emotional Health Services

  • Children’s Minnesota St. Paul Hospital

  • Family Connections

Licensure

  • Minnesota: LICSW #20679

andrea-undlin

Andrea Undlin, MA, LMFT andrea@affinitypsych.com

andrea-undlin

Andrea Undlin, MA, LMFT

andrea@affinitypsych.com

Welcome! First and foremost, I applaud you for taking your mental health or the mental health of a loved one seriously. Seeking therapy is not an easy step to take for a variety of reasons and I am glad you are here. I am a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, a MN Board-approved supervisor, and a trauma specialist. I know that it is not fun or easy to start to unpack the “luggage” you’ve been carrying around for too long that’s been packed full of sad, painful, scary, shameful or other difficult memories or feelings. I know that you may be coming into therapy believing the LIES that life experiences or people in your life have caused you to believe: that you are “broken,” “damaged,” or “crazy.” I’m here to help you unpack that metaphorical luggage and find the truth that you are capable, worthy, resilient, and lovable. I will meet you where you are at, encourage you, empower you, and I will support you along the way. I already believe in you and it’s my commitment to help you believe in yourself.

A Special Note to BIPOC individuals , LGBTQ+ individuals, individuals with disabilities, and individuals from other marginalized groups: I acknowledge that I am a white, cis-gendered, able-bodied female. I recognize that already impacts my ability to fully empathize with many of the difficulties you face in a world that is often unkind or inequitable to those in marginalized groups. With that, I want you to know that I am here for you. I am committed to being a safe and welcoming therapist for people of all backgrounds, to help you navigate the specific difficulties of your life.




How I Work

I believe that therapy needs to be just enough difficult to know you’re getting some work done but also rewarding enough to keep you coming back to do the hard work!

My therapy framework is rooted in an evidence-based therapy called Internal Family Systems. This therapy holds the belief that all humans consist of a Self with many Parts. Often when someone needs to go to therapy, it’s because Parts of them are taking control and making them act in ways that they wish they didn’t. Parts can make us feel anxious; Parts can make us react with anger; Parts can make us drink, do drugs, find control through food, or make us engage in other unhealthy behaviors to cope. Perhaps you can relate to some of the Parts I just mentioned or perhaps you’ve already identified your own unique Parts. In therapy with me, “all Parts are welcome” without judgement from me. I help my clients get to know the Parts of them that may be taking control in unhelpful ways and help my clients regain control in a Self-lead way.

I am also trained in brain-based therapies and interventions. If you’ve experienced trauma, significant stress, or adverse childhood experiences, you likely need something more than traditional “talk therapy.” Often the most effective way to heal trauma is through the brain and the body because that is where the experiences are stored. I am a Certified EMDR Therapist and I have completed Phase 1 of Brainspotting. I incorporate brain-based modalities into many of my sessions to really get to the root of the problems you face and literally help you re-wire your neural pathways to support positive mental health and well-being.

In addition to trauma, I also have specialization in attachment and I have completed an in-depth training in adoption and permanency. I enjoy working with parents of young children using a reflective model called “Circle of Security.” My “parent clients” have found great benefit in learning how to meet their children’s needs through learning where their child is at “on the circle of security” to reduce power struggle, behavioral issues, and other stressful parenting moments.


What Sets Me Apart As a Therapist?

Many of my clients have commented that they have experienced true progress and change in our work together. They also appreciate that I am genuine and personable in our work together. Just because I am a therapist and have a lot of solid trainings and knowledge does NOT mean I have it all figured out. Also, I fully acknowledge and admit that some of the interventions I use may seem weird or “woo-woo”-at least they did to me when I started learning about them. But here’s the thing – they ACTUALLY WORK, and enough research backs that up for me to feel confident in saying that. I do my best to practice what I preach and I don’t ask my clients to try any intervention that I haven’t found personally helpful.



Schedule an Appointment!

Issues I Treat:

  • Trauma/Significant Stress (e.g. victims/survivors of domestic violence, sexual assault, early childhood abuse or neglect, bullying, combat trauma, car accidents, persistent emotional invalidation in childhood)
  • Family of origin issues
  • Relationship Conflict
  • Body Image/Self-Esteem
  • Shame
  • Anxiety and Stress Management
  • Depression
  • Panic Disorders
  • Eating Disorders
  • Perfectionism
  • Parent-Child Relationship Difficulties
  • Parenting Difficulties
  • Navigating Life Transitions

Populations I Serve:

  • Individual Adults
  • Adolescents and Young Adults
  • Children 7 and older with Anxiety Difficulties
  • Parents of young children
  • Families in Conflict
  • Blended-Families

Professional background:



Education

  • Masters in Marriage and Family Therapy- Saint Mary’s University of Minnesota.
  • Bachelors in Family Social Science- University of Minnesota

Trainings

  • MN LMFT Board-Approved Supervisor
  • Certified EMDR Therapist
  • EMDR Consultant in Training (CIT)
  • EMDR Early Attachment Protocol
  • EMDR with Complex PTSD and Dissociation
  • Level 1 Internal Family Systems
  • Level 2 Internal Family Systems- working with Eating Disorders and Addiction
  • Thought Field Therapy (“tapping”)
  • Brainspotting Phase1
  • Certified Circle of Security-Parent Facilitator
  • Certification in Permanency and Adoption Competency

Previous employment:

  • The Calli Institute
  • St. David’s Center
  • Life-Span Youth Transition Services
  • The Emily Program Anna-Westin House-Adolescent

Licensure:

  • Minnesota: LMFT 3317